"Things To Remember"
I know I speak a lot about not holding on to material things and the importance of living a minimalist lifestyle on my blog. However, recently my own theory was tested when some very important "things" got ruined.
I have always loved fashion, but most importantly I loved music and fashion. Playing sports somehow allowed me to establish a greater love for specific brands and their actual products performance. Now I have been a long time Nike and Adidas fan for reasons like Jordan's and shell toes. I use to have this amazing retro Jordan collection that I let go of when I became a mother. I wasn't balling at 23 like some of my friends so I had to sale a lot of my classic shoes to save money for motherhood.
I did however save a few pair like my 5's, white retro cement 3's and my sevens. When we moved from Columbus to California I put them in their boxes in our basement high up to avoid and possible water situations. Recently we came back to Ohio for work and went to check on our home and get it ready for new renters. Apparently there was a leak from the kitchen into the basement that the previous renter was unaware of. It was leaking for so long that it ruined only two boxes in that entire basement.
Box 1. Had all of my Jordan's in it.
Box 2. Had all of my daughters baby clothes and first pairs of shoes, including her Jordan's
Now initially I was extremely upset, mostly because the shoes aren't even made the same anymore so replacing them would be rather difficult. "But even more than that, I cannot replace my daughter's baby book, or notes I wrote her in a book as she was growing her first year. My mom was able to save a few items and get them treated and cleaned, like the blanket Amirah came home in. 98 percent of everything else in those two boxes was ruined for good.
I process disappointment in two phases, phase one is me being super pissed, and phase two is me realizing why I need to get over it. I am a very realistic person and understand the greater meaning in life. For me I have my life, health and most importantly my family. People are struggling every single day with real life issues. Issues of safety, and finances and feeding themselves and their children. So yes I have every right to be disappointed and upset, but I still have my daughter and I don't need baby items to remember her. I gave away almost all of my sisters things after she passed and I haven't gone one day without remembering her.
The funny thing is, I think I want myself to care more than I actually do. Like I get super hype and pissed off when I tell the story but I actually really don't care. I am obviously not happy it happened but in retrospect I would rather God take away things before he ever takes away souls from my life. I say all this to say, be mindful what you declare and what you protest. You never know when God or the universe will test those very beliefs you claim to have. I can say I am pretty confident in my lifestyle choice, and life will go on after the things I thought I valued were lost.
For waking up every single day and being able to kiss my husband, hug my daughter and watch my mother take care of herself, those things outweigh any favorite pair of shoes, or first birthday dress in the world.