Rejection as a Blessing.
Loss comes in many forms throughout our lives, the magnitude and simplicity of each situation changes. Rejection is a natural occurrence that we often treat as a punishment. I've learned over the past years that rejection is a blessing. I firmly believe that whatever is intended for us will naturally gravitate towards our lives. We can always tell when something is forced or unnatural yet we don't always honor those feelings of recognition.
When I look back at the most influential moments of my life, I can firmly acknowledge that I knew those relationships and or situations should have never started. There is something enticing about going against the grain and proving to ourselves that we know more than the universe. Sadly whenever we go that route we often end up with unparalleled pain.
I've taught myself to be vulnerable, to be honest and open with each process of life. Knowing what my emotional limits are and not hiding behind my pride. When I'm honest with myself I'm able to grow, I am free to recognize and heal from all hurt and rejection I experience. Of course my pride gets hurt, but I also know that I will be better in the end. I think the one thing that hurts the most is when we make ourselves vulnerable with people that have hurt us in the past. Thinking that taking the high rode means exposing ourselves to their energy again. Confusing forgiveness with allowance. We have to understand as much as we believe we are being good people, being a good person does not mean allowing people in our lives to cause destruction.
Often we need to take a step back and really look at the quality of people we are trying to embrace. Look at the company you are applying for, the position you are fighting for. Is it really worthy of your love, time, commitment. When you are rejected it is more often a blessing than a curse. Once you realize that what's for you, is not against you, you will find peace.
When it comes to love in the form of romance or friendship, this rule will always apply. You will never have to force real love. You will never have to force someone to accept you or care for you. You will never have to force commitment and or dedication. Forgiveness comes naturally and the mutual goal of happiness will outweigh any desire to punish or mock.
Being vulnerable is not a weakness, but be vulnerable to yourself. Always be honest with yourself about how you feel. People may never meet you where you, but that's okay. There will always be someone on your path. The reality is that the people on your path are headed in the same direction as you. That's who you want to be around you anyway. You don't know what's ahead, so stay focused, stay honest and stay true. Who and what's supposed to be in your life will always find you, as long as you are headed where you are supposed to go.
In the words of Nalo Wise, "Don't ever focus on the people that have rejected you, focus on all the people who have accepted you and loved you for who you are."